How to give your clients results no matter what therapy you do or what problem they present

Learning Outcome Develop a Focus on Immediate Gains

Our clients don’t want really want therapy, what they really want is progress and a sense of satisfaction that their needs are being met.  This course has been 100% focused on making sure your clients leave after this session of therapy with you – feeling energised, motivated and confident that you are the right therapist for them.

Benefits for You and Your Clients

  • Reduce the attrition rate – client commitment to the process increases
  • You can logically work through blocks when they come up
  • Build stronger rapport with clients
  • Increase your confidence and belief in your ability to make a difference when it matters most
  • Work specifically from an evidence-based approach.  Scientifically proven techniques

Shifting Your Clients Mindset Toward Success

‘You see the reason why you haven’t been able to solve this problem is because it is stored in a different part of your mind. This part is called your subconscious.  Your subconscious controls all the things in your body that you don’t have to think about such as breathing, blinking, your heart beat and even your automatic thoughts and feelings and behaviours.  Now I know that you’ve been trying very hard to make progress.  But what most people don’t realise is that even if you are trying to fix it, you only have access to your conscious mind and that mind can’t fix it because the problem is in your subconscious mind.

So today we will use a few different processes to help you connect with your subconscious mind.  That’s where the problem is and also that’s where we need to put the solution!

Unpacking the Problem

Client problems will generally fall into one of two categories. 

Internal problem (something within the self) or external problems (something outside of the self for example relationships or difficult situations).

Allow them to tell the story of what is happening or what has happened to them. We call this the CONTEXT and we ask ‘WHAT’.

The next and most important part of the frameworks is helping the client (and you the therapist) understand the PROCESS.  We call this ‘HOW’.

With external problems we cannot control the environment or what other people do, we can only control how we react and respond.  So focus on reactions and responses.

There are three important questions to ask your client.

  • What are the THOUGHTS that make it happen. 
  • What are the FEELINGS that make it happen. 
  • What are the ACTIONS that make it happen. 

INTERNAL – drawing body, thought process, feelings and actions

EXTERNAL – drawing a story board, imagine it as a scene from a disaster movie or if a habit groundhog day

It can be a good idea to have a set of dominoes to hand. 

Explain how a problem manifests itself in a series of steps. Those steps are usually thoughts, feelings or actions. is like a domino and when one thing happens it tends to cause a chain reaction. 

Next you need to discuss WHEN does it not happen.  You’ll need to encourage the client to think about similar situations when the problem isn’t present.    Specific attribution rather than global.

In particular encourage them to look at how they

  • Think differently
  • Feel differently
  • Act differently.

The aim here is to compare and contrast between automatic reactions and desired responses.

Explain to the client, our next job is to be a scientist or an engineer and to figure out how to INTERRUPT the process. 

How can the chain reaction be broken? 
Where is the best place to interrupt the process?

  • What thoughts might interrupt it?
  • What feelings would be better?
  • What actions would help?

The conversational part of the session is the most important because it is working with PROCESS or HOW.  You and your client now understand how the problem manifests itself and you and your client have also worked out how to interrupt the sequence (the dominoes).

The next thing to do is highlight to the client how their subconscious mind has helped them come up with the solution.  Explain ‘while you were busy mapping it out, or naming the dominoes your subconscious mind helped you create the solution’.

Priming the Anchor

What do you think you need to help you overcome this problem?

For example, is it more confidence, relaxation etc.

So if you have more confidence do you think things would improve?

Today I can help you access that confidence and I’d like for you to have a way to access it later.  To do that we can create what we call an anchor.

An anchor is something you do (maybe with your hands) and where you take what we call a significant breath.

What would work for you?

Rapid Relaxation Training

I’d like to show you a way to tap into your subconscious mind quickly and easily and effortlessly.  

Your Therapy Fits In Here

The next thing we want to do now is to take the old process (the problem) out of your subconscious mind and replace it with the new process (the solution).  The best way to access the subconscious mind is to close your eyes and to use your creative mind.

Ask client to open their eyes. Get feedback.

What does success look like?

For the last bit explain that the subconscious mind is like a video recorder.  When you came here today you had a bit of a disaster movie running in your subconscious mind.  So now you have to make the happy ever after movie. We can map it out on paper first and then you can close your eyes and imagine it in your mind and we can send it to your subconscious.  Once we have that done then we are finished.

Intention setting

Cusp of change.  Moving out of your comfort zone into what we call your growing edge.  When you challenge yourself you’ll need to be able to access deep relaxation rapidly. this will help you to switch brains from reactive to reflective. 

Rapid Relaxation Training

‘Wouldn’t it be nice if you could relax rapidly so your subconscious mind could help you think, feel and act in the way that best describes your future self?’ or

‘Today I want to show you how you can tap into your creative mind quickly and easily by experiencing deep relaxation.  Would you like to learn how to do that today?’ or

‘On a scale of one to ten, how deeply and completely are you committed to overcoming this challenge today?

Breathe in. Breathe out.’

Testing the Therapy

Dial it in.

Actual test – in vivo or synthetic – but test it!

Fire the anchor.

Challenge client.  Next time you find yourself in… how will you

  • Think? 
  • Act? 
  • Feel?

Overcoming Challenges

Foster resilience, grit and determination.

Buffer against depression with daily intentional activities.

Sensory acuity.

Managing Perceived Failure

There is no such thing as failure only feedback. 

Comfort zone to growing edge.

Opportunity to teach (empower)  clients how to

  • Manage anxiety
  • Manage frustrations and challenges
  • Do self analysis
  • Attributional analysis

Therapist Well Being

Finally keep on pushing through your own assumptions.  Take supervision regularly.

End every session with your own personal self reflection www.  v. www.

Bring your post session analysis to supervision.