The Power of Commitment in Therapy
Let’s take a look at the word commitment and what it means to you and to your clients. Together we will look at how we can harness the power of commitment to get our clients fully on board with therapy in the most client-centered way possible.
What Is Client Commitment?
Commitment is described as a promise made to take action. When our clients book therapy we ask them to make a commitment, but the wise therapist will know and will tell their client that we aren’t asking them to make a commitment to us, but to themselves to do whatever it takes to get the outcome that they want.
What Clients Believe Subconsciously
Occasionally our clients are reluctant to make a commitment to themselves because subconsciously they may not think that they are worth the effort, the investment of time, energy and money in pursuing their dreams.
They may tell you that they feel that they are constantly sabotaging their efforts, they may even tell you that they are afraid of failure or afraid of success.
What this really means is that a part of them has just given up. They didn’t plan for this to happen, but in the busy distraction filled world of commitments to their kids, their partners, their extended family, their jobs and their responsibilities in the home and community, often it’s a case that they have given up trying – mostly because they can’t find the time.
We Are All The Same…
This isn’t just true of your clients, it’s true of all of us, it’s part and parcel of being human in a stressed out, time starved world. And I bet if you’re anything like me that you too occasionally feel like giving up and just letting everything slide.
But some how we have to figure out how to dig deep and to find it within ourselves to make the effort to carry on. We find some way to just get on with it.
Reframing Self Sabotage
A long time ago, someone once said to me ‘Wallace you are so used to being knocked down that you just get back up automatically. You dust yourself off and just get on with it and with a habit like that you can do anything, have anything and be anything you want to be.’ It’s that statement that encouraged me to train to be a therapist.
Therapists Have It So Lucky!
But how do we motivate our clients? Well I certainly would never say what was set to me way back then, so we will need something a little more elegant.
So I’d like to share a process that I use with my clients and something I share with my new students on the first module of our double diploma course in strategic hypnotherapy and mind coaching.
My Promises Contract
I call it our promises contract and I ask all of my new students to read through it and if they are happy to do so to sign it.
It’s a simple enough contract, not legally binding or anything like that but it helps show the level of commitment I bring to training and sets the tone for our time together on the course.
I start off by sharing my promises and they can be seen in the image below.
I then ask my client to read the promises I’d like them to make to themselves and to edit or amend them as they see fit.
Basically I want to make sure that both of us are working toward the same goal and my students know what to expect of me.
It’s also a nice way to acknowledge the commitment that my students are making to achieve their goals of running a successful therapy practice.
I think it was Dr Joe Dispenza who described commitment as saying something like ‘I don’t care how long it takes, or where I have to go, or what I have to do but I’m going to do this, and meaning it so deeply and completely that you feel the hairs stand up on the back of your neck.
Permission-Based Progress Works Best…
A commitment like that means that you’ve got to give yourself permission put your own needs first for a change, step out of your comfort zone, learn how to manage your time and any temporary anxiety and uncertainty you might feel as you find your way. You’ll also need to learn how to motivate yourself and how to stay positive and optimistic even if you occasionally feel like giving up.
And skills like that aren’t just great for your clients – they are great for you and for the people you love.Susan Wallace, Teacher of the Double Diploma Course
Be There Every Step Of the Way
But making that level of commitment requires support, so that’s one of the reasons why I encourage my students to sign the promises contract with me.
So I’m going to sign off now in a moment and please don’t forget to subscribe to the channel and if you’re feeling generous please share these podcasts with your friends. Without your support I can’t keep them going.
As usual, say goodbye with my musical anchor and today I’d like you to think about what commitment do you need to make to yourself to take your therapy career to the next level?
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So once again that’s for your time, this is Susan Wallace saying goodbye for now!